The stockings are all hung….

Sixteen stockings line my stair case.  It should be seventeen with Neal’s stocking.  I haven’t hung it the past three years but this year I decided to give it to my youngest grandson, Jonah Neal.  Since he bears Neal’s name, I felt I was in a good place with my grieving to put up the stocking.

Can you tell which stocking is my only granddaughter's?!
Can you tell which stocking is my only granddaughter’s?!
Neal's Christmas stocking
Neal’s Christmas stocking

img_0788For those of us that have lost a loved one the holidays can be very hard.  Things are not the way they used to be.  New traditions, a missing person at the dinner table, minus a Christmas stocking and presents, etc.  I certainly didn’t choose this path but here I am.  Every year gets a little easier.  I can think of Neal and not break down in tears all the time but smile as I remember some good times.    The angels told the shepherds, “I bring you good news that will bring great joy to all people.”  Luke 2:10.  Jesus Christ is the great gift that brings joy to all people.  Even in the hard times we can find joy in the person of Jesus.  Some days that seems like an impossibility but   I have found that if I look for the blessings each day and find things to be thankful for, my heart becomes full of love, joy and peace.  1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 tells us to be joyful, never stop praying and be thankful.

The tradition of Christmas stockings is said to have begun because of a kind nobleman named Nicholas’ actions.  He was born in 280 AD in Asia Minor.  When he was young Nicholas’wealthy parents died in an epidemic.  Nicholas became a Christian priest and used his riches to help the needy, the poor and the sick.  He dedicated his life to God’s service and became a bishop at a young age.  Traveling across the country he helped people, giving gifts of money and other presents.  However, Nicholas always gave his gifts late at night so his identity would remain a secret.  He didn’t like to be seen when he gave the presents away, so the children were told to go to sleep quickly or he would not come!  Eventually Nicholas was named the patron saint of the children and sailors (because of his concern for sailors and ships) and came to be known as Saint Nicholas.

One popular story of Saint Nicholas’ life and deeds tells of a poor peasant who lived in Nicholas’ home town with his wife and three daughters.  The wife suddenly died of an illness leaving the poor man and his three daughters in a state of despair when the daughters became marriageable age, the poor father became even more depressed because he knew he could not provide a dowry.  That meant his daughters would not likely marry.

Saint Nicholas heard of the poor man’s situation and wanted to help, but of course in secret.  So he went to the peasant’s house one night and waited for the family to go to bed.  Earlier that day the daughters had done their washing and had hung their stockings by the fireplace to dry.  When the lamps were turned off and the father and his daughters asleep, St. Nicholas tiptoed to the cottage window, saw the stockings and threw a bag of gold coins into one of the stockings.  There were enough coins for the girl’ dowry and they were now eligible to wed.

Dutch children in 16th century Holland, would leave their clogs by the hearth filled with hay for the reindeer and a treat for Sinterklaas.  In return, Sinterklaas would leave the children treats in their clogs.  Some say, the Dutch introduced the tradition to America.  The clogs became stockings, and the Saint became known to all in English as Santa Claus.

Clement Moore Clarke’s Christmas 1823 tale of “Twas the Night Before Christmas” is the earliest known reference to the Christmas stocking.  It is largely responsible  for some of the conceptions of Santa Claus from the mid 19th century to today.img_0786

Children all over the world continue the tradition of hanging Christmas stockings. Stockings cover our feet that take us on a journey mapped out by God.  May your journey lead you closer to the gift of this Christmas, the person of Jesus.  He fills our “stocking” with love, joy, peace, patience, strength as we journey through life.

My stockings will be hung yet for another week when my family will celebrate Christmas next weekend.  In the meantime, may you find joy and peace this Christmas in whatever traditions you hold.?❤️

On the journey,

Trish

 

Happy 2015!

Christmas with my family brought smiles to my face.   Watching the kids open their presents with excitement made me feel joyful.

Eli in his superman cape I made the boys for Christmas.
Eli in his superman cape I made the boys for Christmas.
Grammy and Caleb, my buddie
Grammy and Caleb, my buddy

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lane
Lane

 

 

 

 

 

 

Corbin
Corbin

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The birth of Hadley Hope Smith born December 26 to Grant and Jenni brought smiles to my face.  She is my first granddaughter with 5 grandsons!

Grammy with Hadley
Grammy with Hadley
Hadley Hope Smith born December 26, 2014, 9lb. 1oz., 21 inches @ 7:33 PM
Hadley Hope Smith born December 26, 2014, 9lb. 1oz., 21 inches @ 7:33 PM

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Grant and I took the boys bowling on New Year’s Day.  This was their first time bowling.  They loved it and were full of smiles!  By the way, I got the lowest score of all four of us and I didn’t do it deliberately!

Lane bowlingCorbin preparing to roll his ball.I had the lowest score of all four of us!

 

 

 

 

Seeing Whitney and Ty celebrate Christmas as new parents was fun.  Little Banks brings smiles to my face.

Whitney, Ty and Banks
Whitney, Ty and Banks

 

Why wouldn't this kid bring smiles to your face?!
Why wouldn’t this kid bring smiles to your face?

The Smile on a face shows joy.  There are two kinds of joy–joy that comes from a pleasant circumstance and the other comes from knowing and trusting God.  The problem with basing our joy on circumstances is that they are consistantly changing, unpredictable and  can be downright horrible.  This joy is temporary.

The joy from God is inward, lasting and unchanging as long as we love God with all our heart, soul, strength and follow his ways.  Jesus said a new command was to love others just as God has loved us.  He is love.  Love is at the core of God’s character.  It should be at the core of our character as well.

Love isn’t just a feeling but its a choice that must be put into action.  It requires humility which isn’t thinking less of yourself; its thinking of yourself less.  Place someone else’s needs above your own.

A few months ago a friend had to go out of the country to be with her mother after some surgery.  I helped a few days with her daughter.  One day when I drove her to the high school we saw a little girl about 7 or 8 years of age standing by the edge of the road with a look of confusion and anxiety on her face.    My friend’s daughter said we should stop and see if she was okay or needed help.  I said that she was probably fine and was just waiting for someone.  My passenger insisted that we stop so I pulled over to the side of the road and she hopped out.  When she approached the little girl she got down to her level and asked if everything was allright.  She was so sweet and gentle with this litle girl.  Upon questioning we found out that the little girl’s brother was suppose to walk her across the street to her school.  The high school, middle school and elementary school are all right next to each other and she was trying to get to the elementary school.  My friend walked the little girl across the street and over to her school.  Her scared look turned to a face of smiles.  I felt so ashamed and selfish that I was going to just drive on.  This 15 year old taught be a valuable lesson.  Everyone is important and  sometimes we need to place someone else’s needs above our own.  My friend was so sincere in her actions that it brought a smile to my face and hers as we recounted the event.

My friends inner joy was put into action and shared with this little girl and myself.  I was so proud of her that I made sure her mother knew about her loving act.  Her mother was so pleased that it brought a smile to her face as well.

My verse for 2015 is “…Let the smile of your face shine on me Lord.  You have given me greater joy…”  Psalm 4: 6,7  God alone is the true source of joy and peace.  I want everything I say and do bring a smile to God’s face.  Right now that means I have a couple people I need to ask forgiveness for some things that I have said.  It’s comforting to know that God doesn’t expect us to be perfect, we can’t, only he is.  I think even confession with the right heart attitude causes God to smile down on us.

You too can have joy that is lasting, unchanging and not based on our circumstances.  It can only come from God, the one who is the essence of love.

May the smile of God shine on you.

On the journey,

Trish