The stockings are all hung….

Sixteen stockings line my stair case.  It should be seventeen with Neal’s stocking.  I haven’t hung it the past three years but this year I decided to give it to my youngest grandson, Jonah Neal.  Since he bears Neal’s name, I felt I was in a good place with my grieving to put up the stocking.

Can you tell which stocking is my only granddaughter's?!
Can you tell which stocking is my only granddaughter’s?!
Neal's Christmas stocking
Neal’s Christmas stocking

img_0788For those of us that have lost a loved one the holidays can be very hard.  Things are not the way they used to be.  New traditions, a missing person at the dinner table, minus a Christmas stocking and presents, etc.  I certainly didn’t choose this path but here I am.  Every year gets a little easier.  I can think of Neal and not break down in tears all the time but smile as I remember some good times.    The angels told the shepherds, “I bring you good news that will bring great joy to all people.”  Luke 2:10.  Jesus Christ is the great gift that brings joy to all people.  Even in the hard times we can find joy in the person of Jesus.  Some days that seems like an impossibility but   I have found that if I look for the blessings each day and find things to be thankful for, my heart becomes full of love, joy and peace.  1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 tells us to be joyful, never stop praying and be thankful.

The tradition of Christmas stockings is said to have begun because of a kind nobleman named Nicholas’ actions.  He was born in 280 AD in Asia Minor.  When he was young Nicholas’wealthy parents died in an epidemic.  Nicholas became a Christian priest and used his riches to help the needy, the poor and the sick.  He dedicated his life to God’s service and became a bishop at a young age.  Traveling across the country he helped people, giving gifts of money and other presents.  However, Nicholas always gave his gifts late at night so his identity would remain a secret.  He didn’t like to be seen when he gave the presents away, so the children were told to go to sleep quickly or he would not come!  Eventually Nicholas was named the patron saint of the children and sailors (because of his concern for sailors and ships) and came to be known as Saint Nicholas.

One popular story of Saint Nicholas’ life and deeds tells of a poor peasant who lived in Nicholas’ home town with his wife and three daughters.  The wife suddenly died of an illness leaving the poor man and his three daughters in a state of despair when the daughters became marriageable age, the poor father became even more depressed because he knew he could not provide a dowry.  That meant his daughters would not likely marry.

Saint Nicholas heard of the poor man’s situation and wanted to help, but of course in secret.  So he went to the peasant’s house one night and waited for the family to go to bed.  Earlier that day the daughters had done their washing and had hung their stockings by the fireplace to dry.  When the lamps were turned off and the father and his daughters asleep, St. Nicholas tiptoed to the cottage window, saw the stockings and threw a bag of gold coins into one of the stockings.  There were enough coins for the girl’ dowry and they were now eligible to wed.

Dutch children in 16th century Holland, would leave their clogs by the hearth filled with hay for the reindeer and a treat for Sinterklaas.  In return, Sinterklaas would leave the children treats in their clogs.  Some say, the Dutch introduced the tradition to America.  The clogs became stockings, and the Saint became known to all in English as Santa Claus.

Clement Moore Clarke’s Christmas 1823 tale of “Twas the Night Before Christmas” is the earliest known reference to the Christmas stocking.  It is largely responsible  for some of the conceptions of Santa Claus from the mid 19th century to today.img_0786

Children all over the world continue the tradition of hanging Christmas stockings. Stockings cover our feet that take us on a journey mapped out by God.  May your journey lead you closer to the gift of this Christmas, the person of Jesus.  He fills our “stocking” with love, joy, peace, patience, strength as we journey through life.

My stockings will be hung yet for another week when my family will celebrate Christmas next weekend.  In the meantime, may you find joy and peace this Christmas in whatever traditions you hold.?❤️

On the journey,

Trish

 

Starting 2016 with a bang!

I started 2016 in a big way!  First of all, my children and their families were here New Year’s weekend to celebrate Christmas.  It was a wonderful way to start the year.  Everyone seemed to have fun together hanging out, playing games, and eating.

Loving the new books!
Loving the new books!
Playing the new games "Bells"
Playing the new games “Bellz”

The past few years we have started some new traditions while opening gifts.  After everyone wakes up and the kids open their Santa gift and everyone unpacks their stockings, the adults play a gift card memory game.      imageThe adults, instead of exchanging gifts, each bring three $10 gift cards for the day’s games.  Another game that is always entertaining is our wheel of fun.  (This wheel was from years ago when Neal’s dental office had a booth at the Berrien County Youth Fair.)

Wheel of fun!
Wheel of fun!

This game requires earning your gift cards either by answering trivia, “head-bands,” acting something out or stealing a card. To make this fun you need people who can be a little crazy.  No problem with my family!

Acting out the nativity scene with a little flair!
Acting out the nativity scene with a little flair!

We added a new game this year, a Saran Wrap ball.  I put a gift card in the center and started wrapping with Saran Wrap, adding little items along the way.  We found it works better if you use the cheap clear Saran Wrap from like the Dollar Store, use short strips of Saran Wrap instead of longer pieces and every so often put strapping tap on the ball.  The adults wore bulky mittens when it was their turn.image image

One person started in the middle unwrapping the ball. A pair of dice went around the circle, everyone taking a turn to roll.  As soon as a person rolled a double, it was their turn to unwrap the ball.  Just as soon as an adult got on the gloves to start unwrapping maybe someone rolled a double already and they didn’t even get a turn.  Some people were “lucky” and had several turns unrolling while one family member didn’t even get a chance!  The kids even enjoyed it.  For more details you can search on Pinterest for Saran Wrap ball.

On Monday I took Collin back up to school at Grand Valley University near Grand Rapids.  After I went to Holland to have coffee with a friend.  Before I arrived there, an older gentleman pulled out of a parking lot on the right side ands crossed over two lanes of traffic and hit me head on while I was in the left turn lane.  Both air bags deployed.  I am alright just received a good blow to my chest and some bruises.  My car didn’t fare so well, totaled.

So long my Jeep!
So long my Jeep!

Back at home later that night I was feeling sorry for myself thinking about probably having to put out more money towards a car.  I also started thinking about how my medical insurance is going up over $400 @ month.  Don’t get me started on my Obama Care.  I felt myself getting anxious, frustrated, physically exhausted and depressed.  When we focus on the negative things happening in our life we head down the path of no peace.  I started thinking about the blessings.  Bless God for air bags and that the accident happened in Holland where my son, Britton, and friends, the Liske’s, could come and help.  The rental car company only charged me the fee my insurance company would cover instead of the larger amount they quoted me.  Because I have a little Chrysler 200 rental I have stayed home more because I don’t feel as safe in it as I did my SUV.  Therefore, I am getting some projects done here at home.  There are always blessings to be found if we look and don’t get buried in the negative things going on around us.

God doesn’t want you to be downcast, constantly looking at your problems.  Rather, He wants you to lift up your head and look for blessings.

Lord, I pray that 2016 will be a year you would help me walk with you daily in the way of peace, looking to You for guidance and comfort.  May I have eyes to see the blessings every day that You provide.