Grandson #5 is here!

Banks Tyler Luther was born to Whitney and Ty last Wednesday, October 29 at 7:53pm, weighing in at 8.9 lbs and 22 inches long!

Banks Tyler Luther

Labor and delivery went well but Whitney had some excessive bleeding afterwards.  They were unable to stop it through meds and various other techniques so she was transported to a hospital across the street for a procedure.  Surgery was successful but she had to spend a couple nights in ICU.  Ty went back and forth hospitals to spend time with Banks, torn between the two.  Whitney has received a few transfusions because she lost a tremendous amount of blood.  Saturday she was transferred back to the delivery hospital to the high risk ward but was reunited with Banks!  Sunday Whitney was then transferred up to the normal recovery floor where Banks had been staying.  And yesterday afternoon we came home!

The Luther family

Staying at the hospital reminded me of staying with Neal.  Walking the halls; pressing the “open door” button on the wall; going to the nourishment room for coffee and ice water; IV poles; infusions; dry hands from the constant use of hand sanitizer; sleeping on couches; operating on little sleep with headaches, back and neck pain, are some of the fresh memories.  This time there was a much happier outcome.

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After Whitney had given birth, Ty brought me back to be with her.  She was feeling sick while the team was trying to get her bleeding under control.  I was holding the infamous pink hospital throw up bucket under her chin at the side of her hospital bed.  I looked down and saw her side profile and saw Neal laying there.  I started to cry and had to have Ty take over.  I wasn’t expecting that emotion.  Grief hits when you least expect it.  Driving down last Wednesday morning I did think about that this was the first grandchild born since Neal died–that emotion I did anticipate.  It has come over Whitney and I a few times the past few days.  I believe Neal was up in heaven cheering Whitney on during labor, delivery and her surgery and continues to do so.

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When I looked down in the hospital and saw Neal laying there through Whitney, she was made in the image of her dad.  When I look at little Banks he looks so much like his daddy, Ty.  They are a snapshot of their earthly fathers sharing in their likeness.  Genesis 1:27-28 says we are made in the image of God.  Am I reflecting God to others?  How am I doing reflecting the image of God through what I say or do?  How is my moral compass?  How am I cultivating my mind?  I pray that when people look at me they can see my resemblance to my Heavenly Father.

Proverb 17:6 says that “Grandchildren are the crowning glory of the aged; parents are the pride of their children.”  Grandchildren are the greatest and most beautiful thing.  (Not so thrilled about “the aged” thing!).  Children are the best and most notable aspect of their parents.  After God created He said it was good and after He created man and women He said it was VERY good.

"GrandchildrenGrandchildren are VERY good!

On the journey,

Trish

 

Expectations–Part 1

What do we do when God’s actions don’t match how we perceive His character and promises?  How do we respond when God doesn’t behave the way we think He should?  What do we do when God’s actions collide with our expectations?

This fall I have been involved in a bible study, Amazed and Confused by Heather Zempel, dealing with those questions.  It was a study of the book of Habakkuk.  Where’s that and who is that you might ask.  Habakkuk is a small book in the Old Testament.  He was a prophet.  Who knew this little book was packed with so much to learn from?  Habakkuk looked around and asked God why are the wicked people prospering and how long is this to go on?

God’s response was:  “Take a look at the nations and watch what happens!  You will be shocked and amazed, for in your days I am doing a work, a work you will never believe even if someone tells you plainly!”  Hab. 1:5  It sounds like God was going to do something wonderful and awesome-something good.  In actuality God continued with words of warning and what He was going to do didn’t seem good for His people.  He told Habakkuk that He was going to bring changes to Judah by invasion of their worst enemies-the Babylonians.  That’s not what Habakkuk expected.  It didn’t seem fair that the bad guys were going to win.   God never claims to be fair or nice.  He does claim to be good, just, faithful and loving.

I want God to do things according to my expectations, but He works according to His purposes (Romans 8:28).  What seems best to me may not be what is best because God has a perspective that I don’t have.  I would not have chosen some of my life experiences over the past few years.  I have to ask myself, do I allow my circumstances to define God’s character?  OR, do I allow what I know about God tell me the truth about my circumstances?  I can either frame God with my problems or frame my problems with God.

Habakkuk didn’t like God’s plan.  But God told Habakkuk that it would get worse before it got better.   The Babylonians would also be punished.  God said you can respond two ways, either trust in yourself or the righteous will live by their faith in God (Hab 2:4).

Faith doesn’t mean that God meets my expectations, but it means I cling to what I know about God’s character and promises.  It means trusting that God is who He says He is and He will do what He says, even if it doesn’t meet my expectations.  Because God is in control.  I may not understand the reasons or the why.  The truths of God may be hard to see at times.  I can look back to times in my life when I remember God being there for me, knowing He will do it again in His time.  Warren Wiersbe says, “God doesn’t always change the circumstances, but He can change us to meet the circumstances.  That’s what it means to live by faith.”

I have learned that it’s good to wrestle with God like Habakkuk.  Be open with my concerns and cares as long as it draws me closer to Him and not away.  It’s good to cling to His Word and promises during times I don’t understand the why and how long.  It’s good to remember how God has helped me in the past knowing that He will help me through now.   I want to be a survivor, hopeful, not a victim of my circumstances, helpless.

Our circumstances may not change, in fact they may get worse.  But God can change our perspective.  Will you allow Him to change yours?

…the righteous will life by faith. Hab 2:4

We will see the rest of Habbakkuk’s story next post.

On the journey,

Trish