Before Thanksgiving I attended a class put on by Hospice to help think through the holdiays without our loved one. There were 5 of us ladies of which I was by far the youngest by at least 20 years. It was rather depressing for me because these women had lost their loved one a year or two prior and didn’t seem to think things got any easier. I find myself in an unusual position. I don’t know anyone else in my situation that is closer to my age. These women, bless their hearts, invited me to be a part of their support group. I don’t feel like I would fit in and I don’t want to be stuck in my grief. Hospice says you don’t get over grief but you can get through it. So how does that happen? Maybe I can give you a better answer in another year when I am farther into the process but I think attitude plays a big part. Time probably helps as well and finding things to do that you enjoy. For me, I also feel like I need to find someone else that has gone through a similar situation that I can relate to.
A friend gave me a book called “Hope for an Aching Heart: Uplifting Devotions for Widows.”
This book was very helpful for me as I found myself relating to the author who happens to live close by. My friend arranged for the three of us to meet and have lunch yesterday. I found myself feeling an instant bond to this woman. The only way I can explain it is what my neice says, “These are my people.” I look forward to developing this new friendship. Margaret has a web site www.gettingthroughthis.com that you might enjoy. She is a very gifted author. Her book and website offer insight into our world of widowhood.
http://www.amazon.com/Hope-Aching-Heart-Uplifting-Devotions/dp/1572935685/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1354326842&sr=8-1&keywords=margaret+nyman
Margaret reminded me of the verse in Psalm 143:8, “Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me The way I should go, for to you I entrust my life.”
Lord I put my trust in You.
On the journey,
Trish