The stockings are all hung….

Sixteen stockings line my stair case.  It should be seventeen with Neal’s stocking.  I haven’t hung it the past three years but this year I decided to give it to my youngest grandson, Jonah Neal.  Since he bears Neal’s name, I felt I was in a good place with my grieving to put up the stocking.

Can you tell which stocking is my only granddaughter's?!
Can you tell which stocking is my only granddaughter’s?!
Neal's Christmas stocking
Neal’s Christmas stocking

img_0788For those of us that have lost a loved one the holidays can be very hard.  Things are not the way they used to be.  New traditions, a missing person at the dinner table, minus a Christmas stocking and presents, etc.  I certainly didn’t choose this path but here I am.  Every year gets a little easier.  I can think of Neal and not break down in tears all the time but smile as I remember some good times.    The angels told the shepherds, “I bring you good news that will bring great joy to all people.”  Luke 2:10.  Jesus Christ is the great gift that brings joy to all people.  Even in the hard times we can find joy in the person of Jesus.  Some days that seems like an impossibility but   I have found that if I look for the blessings each day and find things to be thankful for, my heart becomes full of love, joy and peace.  1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 tells us to be joyful, never stop praying and be thankful.

The tradition of Christmas stockings is said to have begun because of a kind nobleman named Nicholas’ actions.  He was born in 280 AD in Asia Minor.  When he was young Nicholas’wealthy parents died in an epidemic.  Nicholas became a Christian priest and used his riches to help the needy, the poor and the sick.  He dedicated his life to God’s service and became a bishop at a young age.  Traveling across the country he helped people, giving gifts of money and other presents.  However, Nicholas always gave his gifts late at night so his identity would remain a secret.  He didn’t like to be seen when he gave the presents away, so the children were told to go to sleep quickly or he would not come!  Eventually Nicholas was named the patron saint of the children and sailors (because of his concern for sailors and ships) and came to be known as Saint Nicholas.

One popular story of Saint Nicholas’ life and deeds tells of a poor peasant who lived in Nicholas’ home town with his wife and three daughters.  The wife suddenly died of an illness leaving the poor man and his three daughters in a state of despair when the daughters became marriageable age, the poor father became even more depressed because he knew he could not provide a dowry.  That meant his daughters would not likely marry.

Saint Nicholas heard of the poor man’s situation and wanted to help, but of course in secret.  So he went to the peasant’s house one night and waited for the family to go to bed.  Earlier that day the daughters had done their washing and had hung their stockings by the fireplace to dry.  When the lamps were turned off and the father and his daughters asleep, St. Nicholas tiptoed to the cottage window, saw the stockings and threw a bag of gold coins into one of the stockings.  There were enough coins for the girl’ dowry and they were now eligible to wed.

Dutch children in 16th century Holland, would leave their clogs by the hearth filled with hay for the reindeer and a treat for Sinterklaas.  In return, Sinterklaas would leave the children treats in their clogs.  Some say, the Dutch introduced the tradition to America.  The clogs became stockings, and the Saint became known to all in English as Santa Claus.

Clement Moore Clarke’s Christmas 1823 tale of “Twas the Night Before Christmas” is the earliest known reference to the Christmas stocking.  It is largely responsible  for some of the conceptions of Santa Claus from the mid 19th century to today.img_0786

Children all over the world continue the tradition of hanging Christmas stockings. Stockings cover our feet that take us on a journey mapped out by God.  May your journey lead you closer to the gift of this Christmas, the person of Jesus.  He fills our “stocking” with love, joy, peace, patience, strength as we journey through life.

My stockings will be hung yet for another week when my family will celebrate Christmas next weekend.  In the meantime, may you find joy and peace this Christmas in whatever traditions you hold.?❤️

On the journey,

Trish

 

Ancient of Days

This past week I went to the dermatologist for a body check since my deductible was met for the year.  I stood there in my underwear as the doctor checked me over.  “These little bumps are maturity spots.  Looks like you like the sun.  Yep, here’s some more maturity spots….”. Yes, I am getting old.:)

Thanksgiving weekend my mother-in-law turned 90years old!  Now, that’s maturity!  The family had a big blow out party for her at her church including family lunch, family pictures, birthday cake and an open house for her friends to come share birthday wishes.

Yes, she really is 90!
Yes, she really is 90!
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The whole Smith family- 47 of us (minus one grandson, his wife and child). What a legacy!!

There are really two views on aging:  The first view is that aging is looked upon as an incurrable disease.  We try to fight it or delay it by using anti-aging creams or hiding our grey hair at the beauty salon.  Sometimes an elderly person is made to feel useless, a burden to the family or cast off.  The other view about aging is that age is beautiful.  The elderly are wise, full of experience and demand dignity and respect.  It’s all matter of perspective.

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The bible tells us to “listen to our father, who gave you life, and don’t despise your mother when she is old.” (Proverbs 23:22)  We are to show respect for the aged (Lev. 19:32), honor them (Matt. 15:4; 18:18), listen to their wisdom (Job 12:12), and pay attention to their experience (Job 8:8).  We can learn from their good qualities and experiences as well as the not so good.  Either way, it still demands we spend time with the aging, honor and listen to them.

If we honor our father and mother it is “the first command with a promise:  things will go well for you, and you will live a long life on the earth.”  (Exodus 20:12, Ephesians 6:1-3).  According to Merriam-Webster, honor means to show high respect, esteem, courtesy, thoughtfulness, mercy and kindly deeds.  The older redwood trees in the forest are more majestic.  The older wine and cheeses are said to have better taste.  It should be said of an elderly person, the more they are to be appreciated by others.  img_0764

How can I show respect and honor to the aging people in my life?   Even on days when I am frustrated and I don’t understand their thinking.   At the end of the day, the elderly are still adults with the right to make their own decisions- even poor ones-and they are responsible for their actions (unless they are not in their right mind).  I try to understand the motivation behind the aging person’s behavior.  What are they afraid of?  Are they acting this way to feel needed or appreciated or because they are depressed or confused?  I am still called to respect and honor an aging person.  I can set some clear boundaries but what are some practical ways to show that respect and honor?  For the people I am thinking of it might mean taking over a meal, offering to get some groceries for them, taking them to an appointment, not rushing them.

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God is sometimes referred to as “The Ancient of Days.”  He existed even before days were created (Genesis 1 & John 1).  God is often represented as ancient as he is “from the beginning to end” (Psalm 90:2) and “the First and the Last” (Is. 44:6).  The title “Ancient of Days” is found three times in Scripture; Daniel 7:9, 13, 22.  It refers to the time when God the Father sends to earth a second time to establish the Kingdom of God ( Matt. 24:30; Rev. 11:15).

As we look to celebrate the time when God sent his son to earth the first time to be born to a young teenage woman, let’s remember the Ancient of Days in the hustle and bustle.  He was, is, and will always be worthy of honor and praise.  This Ancient One was, is, and will be in control.

How can you show respect and honor to the aging people in your life during this holiday season and every day?  How can you show respect and honor to The Ancient of Days, whose kingdom shall not pass away?  Blessing and honor, glory and power be unto the Ancient of Days.

On the journey,

Trish