Graduation

Saturday Karsten graduated from Taylor University!

Karsten and Mom

 

I was so proud of him especially since the first part of his college career was a struggle.  His dad was sick the first two years and then died just a couple days into his junior year, his grandfather died that next January.  Karsten missed classes both times.  Probably at any other school Karsten would have had to sit out the semester.  Taylor was such a loving and caring environment and his professors were gracious.  I am very thankful for Taylor.

The family at graduation

Being at Taylor brought back a lot of memories of when Neal and I were there.  I could see us sitting in the auditorium, going for walks on campus or where he first kissed me.  I saw a few classmates and employees of Taylor that knew both Neal and me.  I found myself choked up with emotion a few times after talking with a few classmates and employees of Taylor I saw that we knew.  And of course, just sitting at the graduation service wishing Neal could have been there with us brought emotion.

After graduation we all traveled up to Grant and Jenni’s in Fort Wayne.  We were able to hang out, have pizza and some cake.

 

The grandsons enjoying being together.
The grandsons enjoying being together.

 

 

 

Enjoying Grand and Jenni's back deck.
Enjoying Grand and Jenni’s back deck.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Karsten will be working for a company in Schaumburg called Cetera doing some marking for them.  He will be living with my sister until he can afford to live there by himself or with some roommates!

Before Neal died, instead of saying he was going to “die” he would say he was “graduating to heaven.” Karsten’s graduation took on a new meaning with Neal in mind. Before graduates actually graduate they make all kinds of plans.  Some are blessed with finding a job to start after graduate, some get married, some start further education and some travel.  We can have many plans but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails. (Proverbs 19:21)  We still must do our part.  We can’t expect God to hand us everything on a platter.  He wants to cooperate with us, to work in us and through us to accomplish His plans.  Neal said that he wanted to finish well.  That should be our goal daily especially since we don’t know when our end will come.

We can be confident knowing that God, who began a good work in us, will carry it on to completion until Christ returns or we graduate to heaven. (Philippians 1:6)  It will be the best plan and journey especially designed by God for each of us!

On the journey,

Trish

Mother’s Day

This is the second Mother’s Day without the man who made me a mother.  it is also Neal’s birthday this year on Mother’s Day.  i look back to the years we had together and feel so blessed for the time we had.  I look to my children and the future and also feel so blessed.  I have four grandchildren and one more on the way (Whitney and Ty in November).  I have the freedom to go help in Whitney’s classroom, babysit my grandchildren, go out last minute with my friends or volunteer at Hospice.  My journey is all about how does my life fit into God’s plans not how does God fit into my plans?

I recently did a bible study by Jennifer Rothschild called “Missing Pieces:  How to Have Peace When Life Doesn’t Make Sense.”  (I highly recommend it).  One comment she made that really hit me:  “By loving Jesus in our pain, we allow him into our pain.  It opens up doors to the blessings God wants to pour into our lives.  We will come to a place of increasing gratefulness for the journey of our lives, both the joyful times and the sad times….My struggles, my failures, my grief, my joy are molding my soul into something beautiful.  Eternal.  Good…I can fight it or yield to it.”

I would not have chosen this journey but I am grateful for what I have learned about God and myself.  I choose to yield to God’s plans.  How about you?

On the journey,

Trish

This was taken at Collin's after prom the May before Neal died.
This was taken at Collin’s after prom the May before Neal died.