The stockings are all hung….

Sixteen stockings line my stair case.  It should be seventeen with Neal’s stocking.  I haven’t hung it the past three years but this year I decided to give it to my youngest grandson, Jonah Neal.  Since he bears Neal’s name, I felt I was in a good place with my grieving to put up the stocking.

Can you tell which stocking is my only granddaughter's?!
Can you tell which stocking is my only granddaughter’s?!
Neal's Christmas stocking
Neal’s Christmas stocking

img_0788For those of us that have lost a loved one the holidays can be very hard.  Things are not the way they used to be.  New traditions, a missing person at the dinner table, minus a Christmas stocking and presents, etc.  I certainly didn’t choose this path but here I am.  Every year gets a little easier.  I can think of Neal and not break down in tears all the time but smile as I remember some good times.    The angels told the shepherds, “I bring you good news that will bring great joy to all people.”  Luke 2:10.  Jesus Christ is the great gift that brings joy to all people.  Even in the hard times we can find joy in the person of Jesus.  Some days that seems like an impossibility but   I have found that if I look for the blessings each day and find things to be thankful for, my heart becomes full of love, joy and peace.  1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 tells us to be joyful, never stop praying and be thankful.

The tradition of Christmas stockings is said to have begun because of a kind nobleman named Nicholas’ actions.  He was born in 280 AD in Asia Minor.  When he was young Nicholas’wealthy parents died in an epidemic.  Nicholas became a Christian priest and used his riches to help the needy, the poor and the sick.  He dedicated his life to God’s service and became a bishop at a young age.  Traveling across the country he helped people, giving gifts of money and other presents.  However, Nicholas always gave his gifts late at night so his identity would remain a secret.  He didn’t like to be seen when he gave the presents away, so the children were told to go to sleep quickly or he would not come!  Eventually Nicholas was named the patron saint of the children and sailors (because of his concern for sailors and ships) and came to be known as Saint Nicholas.

One popular story of Saint Nicholas’ life and deeds tells of a poor peasant who lived in Nicholas’ home town with his wife and three daughters.  The wife suddenly died of an illness leaving the poor man and his three daughters in a state of despair when the daughters became marriageable age, the poor father became even more depressed because he knew he could not provide a dowry.  That meant his daughters would not likely marry.

Saint Nicholas heard of the poor man’s situation and wanted to help, but of course in secret.  So he went to the peasant’s house one night and waited for the family to go to bed.  Earlier that day the daughters had done their washing and had hung their stockings by the fireplace to dry.  When the lamps were turned off and the father and his daughters asleep, St. Nicholas tiptoed to the cottage window, saw the stockings and threw a bag of gold coins into one of the stockings.  There were enough coins for the girl’ dowry and they were now eligible to wed.

Dutch children in 16th century Holland, would leave their clogs by the hearth filled with hay for the reindeer and a treat for Sinterklaas.  In return, Sinterklaas would leave the children treats in their clogs.  Some say, the Dutch introduced the tradition to America.  The clogs became stockings, and the Saint became known to all in English as Santa Claus.

Clement Moore Clarke’s Christmas 1823 tale of “Twas the Night Before Christmas” is the earliest known reference to the Christmas stocking.  It is largely responsible  for some of the conceptions of Santa Claus from the mid 19th century to today.img_0786

Children all over the world continue the tradition of hanging Christmas stockings. Stockings cover our feet that take us on a journey mapped out by God.  May your journey lead you closer to the gift of this Christmas, the person of Jesus.  He fills our “stocking” with love, joy, peace, patience, strength as we journey through life.

My stockings will be hung yet for another week when my family will celebrate Christmas next weekend.  In the meantime, may you find joy and peace this Christmas in whatever traditions you hold.?❤️

On the journey,

Trish

 

Under the Snow

 

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Snow, snow every where snow!  Some where buried under the snow out there is my deck.  The snow is beautiful but preventing me from going out.  My roads aren’t plowed nor my driveway.  Fortunately Karsten and Collin made it back to their schools before the storms hit.  Buried inside my house here I have been cleaning.  It’s nice to have everyone home but I like it when they are gone.  I can clean and it stays clean!  I’ve done the bedding, organized, including the game closet.

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Behind the closet door it used to be a mess.  You’d never know unless you opened the door.  I did a good job hiding it.  We do that with our hearts.  I remember a few years ago I was going through a time of extreme stress which lead me to cry at the drop of a hat.  Neal asked me to go see the doctor to get some help.  I was sitting inside the exam room and outside the door I heard someone say, “She always looks so together.” Yah, no I wasn’t all together.  I was falling apart on the inside.

I was reading about the story of Job in the Bible.  He lost his livestock, his wealth and his family.  Job cursed the day he was born, begged for death, abandoned all hope and concluded God’s hand was against him.  He assumed incorrectly that God’s hand was against him.  BUT, he never turned his back on God or cursed him.  When we are suffering, we question God.  It seems unfair.  How could God allow bad things to happen to good people?  Let’s not forget, what was fair about sinless Jesus hanging in the cross?  That was undeserved suffering.

In the midst of Job’s suffering he had peace. (Job 19:25-27) When Job lost his prosperity, he was able to draw from his previous experiences of God’s faithfulness.  That’s what preserved his conviction stated in Job 19:25,  Ï know that my Redeemer lives!”  In the midst of Job’s circumstances, God’s peace is what kept him from destruction.

If we want God’s peace, we can’t just expect it to show up in the moment of crisis out of the blue.  God’s peace must be a regular companion.  Job 1:1-3 tells us that Job was a man who lived in Uz.  He was honest inside and out, a man of his word, who was totally devoted to God and hated evil with a passion.

We are blessed when we get our inside world- our mind and hearts- put right.  Then we can see the outside world. (Matthew 5:8)   Get our inside put right by keeping a grip on the promises of God’s Word.  They are true and never fail.  The snow will come and go but the Word of God will always remain.

Is your inside world- your mind and heart- put right?

On the journey,

Trish

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